An open letter to my 18-year-old daughter… 


As many of you have probably seen, Victoria Beckham has penned a letter to her 18-year-old self as part of her October cover story for Vogue. It really moved me and, although I felt she was a little harsh on herself at times, we were given a glimpse into her deepest thoughts and emotions, which I’m sure ring true for many of us.

I think we are all guilty to some extent of putting ourselves down and feeling just not quite good enough. I know that in 20 years time I could do with writing a letter to the current me, giving myself a good telling off for all the self-doubt I’ve been through this past year on my journey as a new mummy. But, in all truthfulness, what good would that do? We can’t go back in time, only look to the future. I can, however, write to my daughter at aged 18 and hope that she still listens to her mum as she matures into a beautiful young woman… 

Dear Madeline, 

As I sit here watching you play so nicely with your light up In the Night Garden Ninky Nonk train, I am filled with such love and have so many hopes and dreams for your future. I hope that Daddy and I have done the best for you throughout your childhood and given you the opportunities you need to succeed in life. 

We’ve discussed getting you tennis lessons, ballet classes and piano tuition over the next few years. We don’t want to be pushy parents but we want to open up avenues for you. More than anything, we want you to be happy and doing the things you love. 

I can’t imagine the world that you now live in. Even now, I turn on the news to see reports of unemployment, rising house prices, high university tuition fees, pollution, global warming, cyber-bullying, trolls and terrorists and worry what a world I’ve brought you into. But, even at aged one I can tell that you have an intelligent head on you and are strong-willed, with a fun-loving personality. Never let the world bring you down and grab the opportunities that come your way. If you remain true to who you are, you will do so well in life and make mum and dad proud. 

I know that you are going to be so beautiful as an 18-year-old young woman. I’m looking forward to having a best friend to go shopping with and share fashion and beauty tips with – I’m sure you will tell me off for being past it! But, try not to focus too much on outwards appearance, what’s inside is much more important. As Cinderella’s mum told her, have courage and be kind. I feel this is a good motto to live by. 

My darling, pray. Ever since I was a young child and my parents took me to church, I’ve always prayed. Not long godly prayers, just little moments to help see me and our family through. I’m no saint and certainly can’t claim to live by the book, but I’ve never gone without in life. In times of struggle, things have always worked out just fine. And, I was blessed with you, what greater gift could I have received?

If you’re anything like mummy, then you will be thinking about moving out by now, gaining some independence and finding yourself. I wonder whether you will be looking to move away to university or planning a once in a lifetime travelling trip. If you’re like Daddy, then you will want to stay a little closer to home, spending time with family and living with us until you are ready to move out and start your own family. I don’t mind as this way I will be able to hold onto you for a little longer. Whatever life choices you make, you have our support. We will always be there for you to offer advice and guidance… And, I’m sure money! 

I hope you have the most treasured childhood memories. I know mummy has had to work and can sometimes get a bit stressed out, but I’ve always aimed to put you first. Quality family time has been especially important to me. At the age of one, you’d already been on three family holidays and lots of weekend trips away. My days off may at times have been filled with housework, but I always tried to make sure that you have had nice mummy time too.

I’m not sure if you’ve grown up with brothers and sisters. I do hope so and I hope you are close. I’m sure there’s been some fights and arguments over the years, but friends may come and go, family will always have your back. Make time for each other as you grow up and love each other. Friends are important too… When you find a good one, hold on to them and laugh until your tummy hurts!! 

Madeline, love life. Go and spread your wings and be happy. But, remember, you will always be mummy and daddy’s little girl and we love you dearly.

All my love always,

Mum xxxx 💞

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11 thoughts on “An open letter to my 18-year-old daughter… 

  1. ❤ you're an incredible mummy. Madeline is very lucky to have you and Fraserfor parents and to share life journey with. Your writing is amazing and I guess that's because you write truthfully from your heart.. I look forward to more blogs xx

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    1. Thank you Nicki, that’s very sweet of you. I think it’s easy to write sincerely when it comes to our precious children. Madeline is my inspiration and motivation in all I do. I’m sure you completely understand. Hope your little one is being good for her mummy and daddy 😊 xxx

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  2. That is beautiful.

    I often think of what the future will hold and the world that we are bringing them up into. But my Dad always taught me to ‘live for today, and not for tomorrow’ . This is perfect. I hope you have written it out for her and left it on a shelf for her when she gets older. Xx

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    1. Thank you. I know, it’s one of my deepest worries, but you (and your dad!) are absolutely right. And, what a fab today it is with these little ones in our lives 😍 I am indeed going to get it printed for her xxx

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  3. This is so beautiful, and such a good idea. You’re right, writing to our old selves won’t change anything but writing to our kids older selves just might.
    #DreamTeam

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